Behaviour: Understanding Younger Toddlers
A certain amount of seemingly 'naughty' behaviour in both older (over 2 years old) and younger (under 2) toddlers is not intentional. Go to
understanding toddler behaviour
for more details. Seemingly malicious behaviour - like hair pulling - actually has no underlying nasty intentions at all. Why Is This Behaviour Unintentional?Limited Understanding
Steven Shelov and other experts point out that concepts such as right and wrong, rules and warnings are generally beyond the younger toddler, and seemingly ‘naughty’ behaviour just lacks thought.Think of your toddler as a learner driver - except that she is learning how to control herself, not a car. If she scrapes the back bumper or makes a dangerous right turn onto a busy road, ask yourself: is it down to nasty intentions or sheer inexperience? Ambition Vs AbilityFrom the age of one, children's new found physical independence caused by walking and growing coordination creates a desire to attempt feats beyond their ability. The sight of a toddler trying to climb a tree, furious because he can't manage it, is a familiar sight to many parents.Gina Ford points out that while a toddler can understand a lot of what is said to him, his ability to clearly express himself lags way behind. Imagine what it would be like to be forced to use only a few words a day, when there is so much you want to say and do? All this means your average toddler under 2 is a child with the ambition of Bill Gates, but virtually no skills to match. Understanding younger toddlers is not a question of mind reading. They are motivated by quite a narrow range of factors. Once you understand why they behave as they do, it becomes easier to deal more calmly and effectively with them. Caring For Your Baby & Young Child, edited by Steven Shelov, Oxford University Press, 1997. Page 276. The Contented Toddler Years by Gina Ford, Vermilion, 2006. page 18. Return from Understanding Younger Toddlers To Toddler Behaviour Problems
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