Help! Temper Tantrums Advice NeededNeed help with your child's temper tantrums? Read this question below, and if you still need advice, contact me for an individual reply. Question: When we are about to go, I try explain to her that she must behave. But it is incredible thetantrums that she has. Nothing seems to work. Answer: It is possible that the tantrum is an expression of not understanding what is happening when it is time to go. When it is time to go, why not suggest that your daughter says 'Bye Bye' to the park or shops. This is a small ritual that will help her understand that the activity is about to change. Do you have a specific activity that follows the park or shopping? One of the best ways to bring an activity to an end is to tell your toddler what is about to happen. This doesn't have to be exciting, but because young children have no concept of time, they like to know what is happening next. For example "Say bye bye to the park. Now we are going home to play with your dolls". In this example, your daughter has something to think about (her dolls) which will help to make her forget the park etc. 
I would avoid saying she 'must' leave the park. Of course all parents have to restrict toddlers' natural will and assertiveness, but there is alot you can do before resorting to the word 'no'. I would recommend Toddlers are very predictable, and it's easier than you might think to get them thinking your way! Important: there is no guarantee that any of these ideas will work immediately. You might have to repeat these techniques for some time before they take effect. Take heart: the positive results (and there will be positive results as long as you persevere) will continue beyond toddlerhood. You will gain confidence in managing your child's temper tantrums, and she will learn how to behave. It's a win-win situation.
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